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JO buddies: finding a jack-off buddy

A JO buddy, or jack-off buddy, is a man you get off with: side by side, on video, or in a group. For a lot of gay and bi men it's the simplest kind of connection there is. No dating, no expectations, just two men enjoying the same thing together.

What a JO buddy arrangement looks like

Every arrangement is different, but most fall into a few patterns:

• Mutual masturbation in person. Each man takes care of himself, or each other, with nothing more expected.
• On video. The most common arrangement for men who live far apart or want to keep things private.
• Group JO sessions. Several men together, in person or online. Popular in the edging community, where long sessions are more fun with company.
• Regular buddies. The same man every week. Many men prefer this: once you know each other, it's easy.

JO buddies and edging

Edging is the natural fit for a JO session: two men taking it slowly, edging together, and agreeing on how and when it ends. Some buddies add a cum control twist, with one man deciding when the other is allowed to finish. Our edging guide and tease and denial guide cover how that works.

Agreeing the basics

Talk about it before you meet or switch the camera on:

• What's on the table. Hands-off, hands-on, or something more. Agree before, not during.
• Privacy. On video, agree that nothing gets recorded or shared. If someone pressures you to send more, or threatens to share what you sent, read our safety guide.
• The stop word. Even a relaxed session needs one.

Meeting a JO buddy safely

Chat first, video call before meeting, meet somewhere public the first time, and tell a friend where you're going. Our safety tips cover the rest, including what to do if someone asks you for money.

Find a JO buddy on Edge Him

Edge Him is a members-only community for gay and bi men into edging, JO sessions and cum control. Create a free profile, see who's near you on the member map, and message men who want the same thing. You must be 18 or older.

Free to join. No subscriptions. Your exact location is never shown. Every photo is reviewed by a real person.

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